When I started writing this blog again, I had such high hopes for how often I was going to write. Like many, I put an awful lot of pressure on myself to do everything perfectly – I mean, how could I not do everything perfectly yesterday?! Yep, I’m a perfectionist and that characteristic has repeatedly got me into trouble over the years.
In this moment, I’ve allowed myself to relinquish control and accept that I do not know what to write this time around.
Even as I type those words, it’s apparently a gateway to inspiration, the words are starting to tumble out of my brain and through my fingers.
It’s actually extremely liberating to start with vulnerability. It’s also incredibly hard.
That’s where the transition of my business comes in. I was working with an (amazing) brand coach who was so in tune with me that she alerted me to the fact that I’d completely lost myself in trying to sell my product. She couldn’t ‘see’ me.
I know when I look back on my life so far there are many occasions when I’ve been so caught up in my head that I don’t see the obvious. Sometimes it takes another to see potential and to give the vote of much deserved confidence that you can’t always see yourself.
On a message thread with friends, this morning came this confidence boost.
“I’m so happy to have you two bad ass ladies in my life. (Also, on the days we don’t feel like we are bad ass).”
Hell yeah, we’re bad asses, even when it doesn't feel like we are!
Confidence in business (and your personal life) is tough, particularly when you are navigating every aspect of it yourself. I’ve been fortunate enough to have become part of a community of immeasurably strong humans who are thoughtful, wise, compassionate, and supportive.
You are never alone in a communi-tea, (like what I did there?!). Community manifests itself in so many different forms, it isn't confined to in-person only.
Not everybody has access to the conventional physical community, and I’m discovering that there are hundreds of variations on Instagram. Often the anonymity of the cyber world gives people a boost of courage providing that first baby step to practice being vulnerable. You just have to find your people.
I’m still working on that last one given that I’m steering my ship in a different direction now. As cliché as it sounds, it’s about taking one step at a time and accepting that it’s okay to be the tortoise and not the hare.